Dr. Peterson chats with Dr. Arthur Brooks, a professor and renowned author on happiness. They explore the science of happiness, highlighting how meaningful aims shape our emotional experiences. Brooks shares insights on the journey toward goals, the paradox of progress, and the evolution of resilience through gratitude. Delving into emotional management, he emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and depth in relationships, making a compelling case for personal growth through discernment and maturity.
The Physicality of Happiness and the Distinction between Pleasure and Enjoyment
A central theme is the embodied nature of happiness, emphasizing its physical manifestations and the critical distinction between pleasure and enjoyment. Brooks says that the “macro-ingredients of happiness are enjoyment (not just pleasure), meaning and satisfaction. Pleasure is fleeting and often associated with immediate gratification, while enjoyment is more permanent and involves memory and deeper experiences. Brooks explains, "Enjoyment is permanent and can be experienced in the prefrontal cortex of the brain, making it a source of lasting happiness." They contrast pleasure from activities like pornography, which is solitary and lacks depth, with the enjoyment from sexual relationships with a partner. Peterson adds, "Sex with a partner involves love and relationship, making it more sophisticated and memorable compared to the purely physical act in pornography." The duo explores happiness as a tangible, measurable process influenced by physical effort and enriched by meaningful, memorable experiences. As a note, they spent most of their time talking about the impact of enjoyment but mentioned they could have spent equal time on meaning and satisfaction.
How Aim Sets Perception
The conversation delves into how our goals and aims shape our perception of the world, acting as filters for what we notice. Peterson illustrates this with a personal story from his teaching days, recalling how, when he first started teaching Jungian psychology, he began to see Jungian archetypes everywhere—in his students' behaviors, in literature, and in everyday life. "Once you have a framework or an aim, it's like your brain is tuned to pick up on related information," he explains, suggesting that setting a clear aim reorganizes our perception. Brooks echoes this, sharing his experience of shifting his research focus to happiness. He notes that once he decided to study happiness, he started noticing aspects of people's lives that he had previously overlooked, such as small gestures of kindness or expressions of joy. "Our aims act as filters," he says, "They determine what we pay attention to and what we ignore." This theme highlights the perceptual engineering aspect of purpose, showing how intention can transform our experience of reality.
The Paradox of Progress
Another significant theme is the paradox of progress, where societal advancements often lead to unexpected discontent. Brooks shares a story about a high-powered executive he once counseled, who, despite achieving great wealth and status, felt empty and unfulfilled. "He had everything he ever wanted, but he was miserable," Brooks says, tying this to his research that shows material success beyond basic needs doesn't necessarily increase happiness. Peterson agrees, citing studies that illustrate the hedonic treadmill, where people quickly adapt to new levels of wealth or status, leading to a constant pursuit of more. "There's a point of diminishing returns," he says, "Beyond that, more money doesn't buy more happiness. Instead, it's about how we spend our time, who we spend it with, and whether we're living in alignment with our values." Money is not the only idol they warned against chasing. They also discussed the aforementioned “pleasure” as well as power and honor (or fame, really). Put into a modern context, you can see easily how society is going off the rails, relative to those for idols. Additionally, they mention that those with dark tetrad personalities (narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy, sadism) are unable to experience true happiness because they cannot move beyond immediate pleasures to deeper forms of enjoyment and meaning, getting stuck in a cycle of chasing temporary gratifications without finding lasting fulfillment. The point is, don’t chase those idols; chase enjoyment (long term), meaning and satisfaction.
“Humans are made for progress, not arrival.” - Arthur Brooks
Theme 4: The Need for Proper Discernment
Discernment, the ability to make wise judgments, emerges as a crucial theme for achieving true happiness. Brooks shares his personal journey of discernment, recounting his pilgrimage walking the Camino de Santiago in Northern Spain. "I walked the Camino de Santiago, praying the rosary every day, saying, 'Lord, guide my path.' That's when I decided to go back to my behavioral science roots and study human happiness," he says, emphasizing that discernment is not just an intellectual exercise but often requires time, reflection, and sometimes physical journey to uncover one's true path. Peterson adds that discernment involves setting an uphill goal and allowing one's imagination and perceptions to work on clarifying that goal over time, which can be uncomfortable and requires patience and perseverance.
Sustained Maturity for Life's Adventure
Finally, the episode highlights the necessity of sustained maturity for leading a happy and adventurous life. Brooks reflects on his own journey, sharing the challenges he faced when returning to school in his late 20s after years as a musician. "Maturity isn't just about age; it's about learning from experiences and continuously evolving," he says, noting how this period of growth was crucial for his personal and professional development. Peterson echoes this, emphasizing that life is full of challenges and that facing them with maturity and resilience is key to finding happiness. He shares a general observation that individuals who embrace continuous growth, rather than seeking immediate gratification, tend to find greater joy and accomplishment. "Life is an adventure, and it's through overcoming obstacles that we find our greatest joys and sense of accomplishment," he says.
What was so great about this episode was the back and forth and constructive dialog between these two intellectual giants. While some of the themes may be familiar to you, the way the weaved together psychology, biology, religion and their own experiences was fascinating to watch play out. You could tell these guys were feeding off of each other. And …to our delight…not one ounce of politics. Enjoy
THE PODSCORE 5 (out of 5) MICS